What do you really want and what will you do to keep from getting it? An odd question? Not really. Let’s explore…
Homeostasis is alive and well, and not just in our bodies. We get a sense of safety from doing what we’ve always done, even if that means we get sub-optimal or even detrimental results. So, we resist change.
There are some important questions to ask yourself if you find that you say you want to change but then don’t, or you say that you’re going to focus on completing your most important task every day/week but then don’t do it.
- What are you doing to undermine your declared commitment to change? Are you constantly checking email, social media or other online sites? Are you multi-tasking? Are you busy making checklists or to-do lists? Are you wasting time chatting with others at work?
- What is your underlying competing commitment? Do you need to feel in control? Do you want to be able to check lots of little things off of your to-do list? Are you trying to avoid the hard work?
- What are you afraid might actually happen if you make the change? Are you afraid that you’ll be overwhelmed by all the other little “stuff” that will pile up if you shift your focus to getting the big project or the most important task done? Are you afraid you won’t have time to take care of your customers? Are you afraid you’ll fail? Are you afraid you’ll get too busy?
Because we don’t recognize the underlying fears that are associated with making these changes, we subconsciously sabotage our efforts. Once we bring these fears to light and examine them critically, we usually find that they are unfounded. And then, we can move toward making the changes we need to make.
So for today, think about a change you need to make in your business. Write it down. Now think about what you’re currently doing that undermines your ability to make this change. Write that down. And next, think about your underlying fears and write those down. Now you can critically examine those fears to determine if they’re real or imagined.
In my next post, I’ll give you the steps to overcome homeostasis and grow your business to create the legacy you want.