So what are you tolerating that needs changing?
Let me explain. Many times when I say this I’m referring to behavior in others that you’re tolerating that is creating suffering in your life. Today, however, I’m wondering what behaviors in yourself you’re currently tolerating that are preventing you from moving closer to your desired future.
One of the main things I think we’re all tolerating (at least to some degree), is the mistaken believe that we need to react and respond to every notification and distraction and intrusion into our daily lives. We’ve convinced ourselves that just because we could be accessible 24/7 that we actually should be. One study I read showed that many professionals engage with their work more than 70 hours per week through their smartphone! I happen to believe that is a behavior we should not tolerate in ourselves.
Here’s the deal: If you’re never fully off, you’re never fully on. We all need margin –space– in our calendars. We need to breathe, to reflect, to plan. We need to rest and recharge. And the fact is, when we do take time off to be alone and to be with those we claim to love the most, we return to our work more energized and engaged. So why do we feel guilty for taking time off? Why do we tolerate the belief that good customer service means 100% accessibility? Why do we tolerate constant work, or at least the constant checking of work emails and the constant taking of work phone calls after work hours? Why do we tolerate our inability to focus on any one thing at a time because we’re trying to do too many different things?
Many business owners will bring 150% to their business day after day and then take home the scraps to their families. It’s time to step up and set a higher standard for yourself. It’s time to create the systems that enable you to set…and manage…expectations with your customers, your team, and your friends and family about when you’re available and when you’re not and when you’ll get back to them. And then it’s time to lean into your integrity and do what you say you’re going to do. It’s time to communicate, not tolerate. It’s time to lead, not follow. It’s time to take back control of your business’ most valuable asset — YOU — and your business’ most important resource — TIME. You’ll be glad you did.