If you look back over your life, I’m sure you’ll find that you’ve survived times of deep pain. We all have. What I’m most curious about are those painful circumstances that you and I have transformed to become our greatest powers. Why is it that we’re often faced with terrifying dragons and, once we’ve slain them, we realize just how powerful we truly are. Why does it take a dragon to show us our power?
I don’t know about you, but I’d love to think that a time may come when I’ll know my inner strength without being tested. I’ve love to think that some day I’ll step into the spotlight to thundering applause instead of stepping into the arena to battle the foe to a bloody death. Now I’ll admit that in some areas I’ve truly learned how strong I am and how overcoming obstacles has made me capable and empowered to handle my day with grace and poise. Yet there are some areas where it seems like I need a fire-breathing dragon to battle in order to grow and evolve.
I suppose a more helpful question besides “why” do I need to go through pain to get to power would be “how” can I better recognize and use my innate capabilities more consistently. And if I did that, would it result in less struggle and more strength?
If the goal is to get to the place where I know I’m a superhero with super powers, then I guess getting there requires I gain these powers by any means necessary. My goal will be to pay more attention to those times when pain triggers me to react, and then change my triad (my physiology, my focus and my language), and then focus on reframing the event to reveal my existing inner strength rather than waiting to transform the pain into power.